I became a huge fan of frank from cruise control on radio, he was such a breath of fresh air, i would be rushing home in Lagos traffic just to listen to him, I actually had a special way, I would switch off all the lights and just let franks voice and all the music he played take all the stress of work and life away, God bless you frank, despite the fact that you were going through your issues, you still managed to shine light for other. Tai Solarin used to say to us in school ...“We measure life by loss, not by gain, Not by the wine drunk, but by the wine poured forth"....Thank you for pouring
Hey Chude, great show and I particularly enjoyed this one with Frank Edoho as he’s well spoken and it brought back childhood memories. Have you thought of sitting your guests on a comfortable couch 🛋️ or ‘arm chair’ for the shows? I don’t know if it’s just me but Frank didn’t look comfortable in that chair
Frank’s perspective is a powerful reminder that growth often comes from owning our part in the narrative and committing to becoming better. I like the maturity Frank displayed during this interview. It’s evident that he has done a great deal of introspection. When we’re young and still maturing mentally, mistakes are inevitable. What’s important is not avoiding them but ensuring that we grow from them. Mistakes are a part of life’s learning curve, and the key takeaway is the ability to reflect, take responsibility, and apply those lessons moving forward.
It is sad how people mistake confidence/silence for arrogance/guilt and then hate people without hearing their side of the story. I love Frank's response - "I'm not going to change the person I am just because/maybe the person who didn't deserve me had me".
"I'm not going to change the person I am, just because the person that didn't deserve me, had me." These words are remarkably outstanding! The best person you can ever be is you. Always strive to be the best version of you and be proud to be you...your real you!
I always wanted to walk in Mr Frank’s shoes growing up.Couldn’t just see myself through school.His sense of humor made me fall in love with his person.An incredible man ❤
Please don’t be depressed and listen to sad music ooo, especially if you don’t have coping mechanisms like Mr Frank. Your happiness can’t be dependent on another person. And true happiness comes from God.
Understanding Depression: Depression is more than just feeling sad or having a bad day. It’s a serious mental health condition that affects how you feel, think, and handle daily activities. Imagine feeling stuck in a dark cloud that you can’t shake off, no matter what you do. Common Symptoms: •Persistent Sadness: Feeling down or empty most of the time. •Loss of Interest: Not enjoying activities you once loved. •Fatigue: Constantly feeling tired and lacking energy. •Sleep Issues: Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much. •Appetite Changes: Eating too little or too much. •Concentration Problems: Difficulty focusing or making decisions. •Feelings of Worthlessness: Harsh self-criticism or guilt.
It is how Frank Edoho was still shielding her in this podcast that will help any sane mind to know that truly he isn't what she painted him to be. You are a great and wonderful man, Frank. God bless you always
I remember Frank Edoho from the Cross River State Radio in the 90s. His music programme was called "Ghostbursters". The opening Montage was Ray Parker Jr's song of the same title. Such fun memories and his voice was and still remains magnetic. ❤
This thing about “blowing” in Calabar or having small money and choosing to remain there has really held down lots of talents. Kudos to those who chose to leave and make it against all odds! Because e no easy. Never get too comfortable with perceived success.
Thank God for Sandra Edoho the current CEO of vivabella designs, since he remarried to her see how enriched his life is (I’m not referring to money btw). “He that finds a good wife, finds a good thing” ❤ I’m glad he’s found peace and freedom now! Such a lovely family
No...people sometimes don't know why they are even depressed or they look for whom to blame. Only intelligent beings blame themselves n improve on the drawdown of depression
Look unto Jesus Christ God in the Flesh. The one who loved us even when we were sinners and knew Him not. Was Patient, waited went all the way to the cross. Through the nomination shame most dehumanising death, just so He Redeem us ,YOU back to Himself. U have a price over your head already by the one who created U. U are of immense value Actually Priceless. For Jesus to have gone all the way, FOR YOU?? Forget it Bro/Sis. Just tell it to Jesus. Go back to Him. Forget every every, when the chips are down afterall, it's ONLY Jesus that STAYS. THIS TOO WILL PASS, SIR/MADSM. JUST BELIEVE!! I am a Testimony that Jesus Love and His care His working miracles in our lives is REAL. June 2020, for the 1st time, I felt what it mearnt to be SUICIDAL. I didn't think it to take my life o, but I felt it, maybe juggled it, as in thought about it and why people go that point of no return. Reason; Because a wealthy cousin who promised me money for business,died same week he was supposed to release d funds for my business. I was with him, ate with him.laughed on a Monday and he said Bro your money don land o, show on Thursday. On Tuesday evening he sent me a WhatsApp picture he was down maybe malaria, Wednesday they have carried my Guy into isolation centre Covid 19 someone with heart disease 😢😢. Long and short he didn't.make it out. With a wife and my 2 young children one undergrads d other secondary school plus zero finances. I felt my world crumbling before me. I had put all my hope on that promise of fund, on man. Another.lesson I learnt that period too. That when we truly walk with God, He God is JEALOUS about everything concerning us, and tgat INCLUDES our soyrce/s of HELP. If God feels it will not bring glory to him, or knows what we dont know about d source etc of that help support etc , even relationship we keep or plan to keep. God can scatter everything. He sees what we cant see from the highest mountain on earth. This same pattern plays out in rationships. Holy Spirit will KILL the relationship in courship stage, saving us the heartache of a broken marraige do estic violence a divorce in the future. Yet unbeknownst to us, we cry and cry and cry over boyfriend and Girlfriend jilting things. That I survived that year and into 2025 and everything looking up- CAN ONLY BE JRSUS CHRIST ,CAN ONLY BE THE LIVING GOD , GOD THE HOLY GHOST THE GOD IN THE EARTH TODAY, OUR HELPER PROMISED AND DELIVERED BY JESUS IN ACTS 2, THE PHENOMENON @ PENTECOST. So my dear, just tell it to Jesus. If U can exercise the Beluvers gift of Tongues for Personal Edification- This is the time, when ALL THINGS BEGIN TO WORK TOGETHER FOR YOUR GOOD
Nobody has a perfect life, and everyone has a journey and a story. But a person to say I have not said a complementary word to my ex wife - the mother of your children for so many years speaks volumes. In a previous interview, I recall Frank talking about giving the silent treatment. Another way to ask the question "why she did that?" Could be did I do something to make you do that? Speak to married couples and they will tell you it's about working at it, and forgiveness. I don't know if your religion is Christianity, if it is then Forbearance and kindness are fruits of the spirit. Nonetheless, I wish you well and hope you heal from the childhood traumas you experienced. Also, therapy is something we should embrace more in the African community. Perhaps give it a try. Love and Light always.
Sometimes what those 'trained eyes and ears' see and hear unless subjected to the litmus test is only their biases covered under professional qualifications.
Nothing wrong with best friends getting married, people just change and you see something else which can also happen when you marry a stranger😂😂..choice and consequence. Frank isnt the same person he was in his first marriage, in that same situation today he ll handle things differently😂😂
Great interview from Chude! Frank Edoho's life resonantes with mine and many others. Men get judged for leaving an emotionally abusive marriage. Most of men decide to just be silent about separation and divorce doesn't mean we are all the antagonist in all of it. Out of respect for the children and ex wife we just chose to bury our heads in all the lies spreading. We shall be okay
Everyone is innocent until the person is proven to be guilty! So many people have been wrongly locked up in jail simply becos of a confession that had no proof!
Frank needs to find Joy and leave Happiness. Happiness is temporary. Try joy can be found in Christ. It doesn't mean we wont face challenges or hard times but we would still have joy that is from within and not human source. Truth is your children can leave and forget about you . May life never get us .
And sadly too many adults are on this table. They live in denial that they are ok or ‘turned out well’ but the opposite is the case cause they end up frustrating loved ones. Deal with your traumas and be better for yourself and those around you.
I agree. On a personal note I have recently been reviewing my childhood and that of my siblings, significant life events and incidents, my peculiar shy and withdrawn behaviour at primary school, and the lives of my late parents and relatives and concluded that there was so much trauma which is still manifesting in the lives of my extended family. and me. The first step is a humble self examination, reflection and acknowledgement, forgiving yourself, your parents, and siblings, not rationalising or sounding tough. The next step is resolving to heal and seek ways to break the trauma chain... the hardest part. Most of it was out of our collective control as everyone was responding to life in Nigeria as best as they saw fit within the context of the social and cultural milieu. May God help us all.
@@supranova6592 Forgiveness is the key to healing from these traumas because we have all been on autopilot. As we journey through our path to healing, we should hold space for those yet to embark on healing.
It is weird that he never answered the question about domestic violence directly. Saying so much but nothing at all. This man has issues and has mastered the act of lying. He will only fool gullible people.
If I’m honest if a lady slaps me. I’m leaving her or divorcing her. I might even forgive cheating. But if your wife/girlfriend feels comfortable to slap you.. it’s a dangerous road to be.
I guess the sad music is a coping mechanism not really healing." I learnt how to deal...i am alone in the world" To be tossed in the turbulence of depression and the ability to adopt a coping mechanism and still flourished in his work is a miracle. Depressed state of life can be dream killing. 'Depression abhors joy' does this mean a depressed person is condemned to die and not live or spread the depression or cope with it? Before depression there is something, isn't it possible to go back to that something before depression came? Discussing the reason for depression, adopting prayers can help. Alot of people can't afford consultation with psychologists otherwise professional advice is the best, one has to be careful to pick out the real professional from pretenders in the job.b
He still respects his kids so coming out to say his/her is bad wouldn’t show respect! The news your looking for, if you don’t understand then go on tv and say your boyfriend is a fraud and see how people will turn it against you
Mr Frank married his 1st wife out of guilt of she being pregnant for him. A lesson that must be learnt by both ladies and men. You happiness is key . Don't be pressured into taking immeduate decisions for a lifelong devisions. Think through bcos people's decidions don't always matter. Many spouses feel entitled bcos of either marriage or circumstances that happened before marriage.
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993all this 'my happiness is key' is pure self centeredness and the world is never built by such. What of the children, the immediate and extended family? Or you feel there happiness dont count. Its little children that fancy there happiness only, mature people becomes source of happiness to others.
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993Apt. That's the question he should have asked himself. Why impregnate your first wife when you knew you were not going to marry her. This is very bad na.
@@Lambo567 I am diagnosed with stress and anxiety disorder. Those were the signs I encountered before it got worse. Them no dey tell person something twice. Since then I've been meticulous with how I handle work and I listen to my body. So he's stressed, he needs rest. Just looking out for him that's all.
Hell is not a place to be 😢😢👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯 We learn from videos like this. Frank a wife beater, not a wife beater etc etc. Some escalate to fatality, one of d partners loosing their lives
Chaiii sorry ... Me after my last heartbreak with a beer friend I wanna marry, I have been scared to enter another relationship, Infact I want to be a priest .
A man who experienced so much domestic violence from the dating stage to when he decided to marry her was so quick to move on after divorce. He married his present wife after three years of divorce from his ex. So at what point did he sit down to clear his head from all the trauma he experienced from the marriage, looked for his present wife, get to know her more(because of the bad experience of the past), and finally decide to settle down with her. This story of his doesn't sound complete to me.
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Frank ought to have a podcast. There is just something that makes him interesting to listen.
My thought exactly
I became a huge fan of frank from cruise control on radio, he was such a breath of fresh air, i would be rushing home in Lagos traffic just to listen to him, I actually had a special way, I would switch off all the lights and just let franks voice and all the music he played take all the stress of work and life away, God bless you frank, despite the fact that you were going through your issues, you still managed to shine light for other. Tai Solarin used to say to us in school ...“We measure life by loss, not by gain, Not by the wine drunk, but by the wine poured forth"....Thank you for pouring
Exactly. You did well with the analysis. Cruise control was the icing then.
Hey Chude, great show and I particularly enjoyed this one with Frank Edoho as he’s well spoken and it brought back childhood memories. Have you thought of sitting your guests on a comfortable couch 🛋️ or ‘arm chair’ for the shows? I don’t know if it’s just me but Frank didn’t look comfortable in that chair
I thought so too
You so right
SPOT ON 👍🏿👍🏿
So right. Please do something. 😅
Sounds better
Frank’s perspective is a powerful reminder that growth often comes from owning our part in the narrative and committing to becoming better.
I like the maturity Frank displayed during this interview. It’s evident that he has done a great deal of introspection.
When we’re young and still maturing mentally, mistakes are inevitable. What’s important is not avoiding them but ensuring that we grow from them. Mistakes are a part of life’s learning curve, and the key takeaway is the ability to reflect, take responsibility, and apply those lessons moving forward.
It is sad how people mistake confidence/silence for arrogance/guilt and then hate people without hearing their side of the story. I love Frank's response - "I'm not going to change the person I am just because/maybe the person who didn't deserve me had me".
There are always three sides to two people's stories!
@@BA-oh5yc True, in fact, it could be more as there are at least 2 sides to every story.
And when you refuse to stay silent, they'll say you complain a lot.
This is germane and phenomenal.
Bless your heart ❤
"I'm not going to change the person I am, just because the person that didn't deserve me, had me." These words are remarkably outstanding! The best person you can ever be is you. Always strive to be the best version of you and be proud to be you...your real you!
These are the things this generation says to cover for bad behaviour, how did the person who didn't deserve you have you?
@amehjohn508 Until you find yourself in same shoes, you wouldn't understand 😢.
@@TEEFAB You can't be more correct! Please enlighten him, he doesn't understand...his ignorance has blindfolded him!
I love the way Frank speaks
He has this aura
Thanks!
I always wanted to walk in Mr Frank’s shoes growing up.Couldn’t just see myself through school.His sense of humor made me fall in love with his person.An incredible man ❤
I must say, this interview did something to me and I really appreciate it. In Chude’s voice, “I love it!” Thank you uncle Frank
Frank was real
Weldon Chude for bringing Frank Edoho. It's takes a strong man to go through what he went through and still stands.🥰🥰🥰
Please don’t be depressed and listen to sad music ooo, especially if you don’t have coping mechanisms like Mr Frank. Your happiness can’t be dependent on another person. And true happiness comes from God.
He also said in the interview that you are the only that knows yourself. Other people's advice may not work for you
Absolutely
Understanding Depression:
Depression is more than just feeling sad or having a bad day. It’s a serious mental health condition that affects how you feel, think, and handle daily activities. Imagine feeling stuck in a dark cloud that you can’t shake off, no matter what you do.
Common Symptoms:
•Persistent Sadness: Feeling down or empty most of the time.
•Loss of Interest: Not enjoying activities you once loved.
•Fatigue: Constantly feeling tired and lacking energy.
•Sleep Issues: Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much.
•Appetite Changes: Eating too little or too much.
•Concentration Problems: Difficulty focusing or making decisions.
•Feelings of Worthlessness: Harsh self-criticism or guilt.
It is how Frank Edoho was still shielding her in this podcast that will help any sane mind to know that truly he isn't what she painted him to be.
You are a great and wonderful man, Frank. God bless you always
I remember Frank Edoho from the Cross River State Radio in the 90s. His music programme was called "Ghostbursters". The opening Montage was Ray Parker Jr's song of the same title. Such fun memories and his voice was and still remains magnetic. ❤
Hmmm love listening to frank love his aura and he’s got charisma keeps you focused on him. Seems like a nice guy too
This guy chud is a good presenter... Frank is blessed thanks to his hardwork and I loved the show.
Frank is a super intelligent man 👏
This thing about “blowing” in Calabar or having small money and choosing to remain there has really held down lots of talents. Kudos to those who chose to leave and make it against all odds! Because e no easy. Never get too comfortable with perceived success.
Wow…DBN tv 😭😭😭😭😭e don teyyyyyyyyyy….wasnt dt d station we vote for movies we want to watch on Friday night….OMG….took me back to my childhood
Yes, it was DBN
I'm trying to remember the soundtrack they played back then
I think is called Night Shift
Night shift by the Commodores
@ yessss….thanks. 😄
Listen to your HEART always. Some call it GUT feeling. It’s all you have as guide. It’s where God speaks.
True happiness does not depend on variables, i agree
Depression has a cure. Whatever you can do that takes away that sadness entirely, the it brings healing
Thank God for Sandra Edoho the current CEO of vivabella designs, since he remarried to her see how enriched his life is (I’m not referring to money btw). “He that finds a good wife, finds a good thing” ❤ I’m glad he’s found peace and freedom now! Such a lovely family
Couldn’t agree more.
Na my story thank God for today.
Most depressed people blame themselves for problems caused by others
No...people sometimes don't know why they are even depressed or they look for whom to blame. Only intelligent beings blame themselves n improve on the drawdown of depression
I feel Frank. Walking thru that path is miserable. It takes grace to get out of it
When you are being laughed at and rejected you must love yourself. Hmmm i am at that stage now but it's not easy 😢
Look unto Jesus Christ God in the Flesh. The one who loved us even when we were sinners and knew Him not.
Was Patient, waited went all the way to the cross. Through the nomination shame most dehumanising death, just so He Redeem us ,YOU back to Himself. U have a price over your head already by the one who created U. U are of immense value Actually Priceless. For Jesus to have gone all the way, FOR YOU?? Forget it Bro/Sis. Just tell it to Jesus. Go back to Him. Forget every every, when the chips are down afterall, it's ONLY Jesus that STAYS.
THIS TOO WILL PASS, SIR/MADSM. JUST BELIEVE!! I am a Testimony that Jesus Love and His care His working miracles in our lives is REAL.
June 2020, for the 1st time, I felt what it mearnt to be SUICIDAL. I didn't think it to take my life o, but I felt it, maybe juggled it, as in thought about it and why people go that point of no return.
Reason; Because a wealthy cousin who promised me money for business,died same week he was supposed to release d funds for my business. I was with him, ate with him.laughed on a Monday and he said Bro your money don land o, show on Thursday. On Tuesday evening he sent me a WhatsApp picture he was down maybe malaria, Wednesday they have carried my Guy into isolation centre Covid 19 someone with heart disease 😢😢. Long and short he didn't.make it out. With a wife and my 2 young children one undergrads d other secondary school plus zero finances. I felt my world crumbling before me. I had put all my hope on that promise of fund, on man. Another.lesson I learnt that period too. That when we truly walk with God, He God is JEALOUS about everything concerning us, and tgat INCLUDES our soyrce/s of HELP. If God feels it will not bring glory to him, or knows what we dont know about d source etc of that help support etc , even relationship we keep or plan to keep. God can scatter everything. He sees what we cant see from the highest mountain on earth. This same pattern plays out in rationships. Holy Spirit will KILL the relationship in courship stage, saving us the heartache of a broken marraige do estic violence a divorce in the future. Yet unbeknownst to us, we cry and cry and cry over boyfriend and Girlfriend jilting things.
That I survived that year and into 2025 and everything looking up- CAN ONLY BE JRSUS CHRIST ,CAN ONLY BE THE LIVING GOD , GOD THE HOLY GHOST THE GOD IN THE EARTH TODAY, OUR HELPER PROMISED AND DELIVERED BY JESUS IN ACTS 2, THE PHENOMENON @ PENTECOST.
So my dear, just tell it to Jesus. If U can exercise the Beluvers gift of Tongues for Personal Edification- This is the time, when ALL THINGS BEGIN TO WORK TOGETHER FOR YOUR GOOD
Nice interview 🎉
Mr Chude, you need to get some rest, your eyes and shoulder twitch 😢 great job!🎉
Well spoken
18:59 The six million dollar question! 😅
"True happiness should depend on factors that are not variable..."
Cross River To The World ❤❤❤❤
Cross River how?
Frank Edoho is from Eket in Akwa Ibom State please.....
Nobody has a perfect life, and everyone has a journey and a story. But a person to say I have not said a complementary word to my ex wife - the mother of your children for so many years speaks volumes. In a previous interview, I recall Frank talking about giving the silent treatment. Another way to ask the question "why she did that?" Could be did I do something to make you do that? Speak to married couples and they will tell you it's about working at it, and forgiveness. I don't know if your religion is Christianity, if it is then Forbearance and kindness are fruits of the spirit. Nonetheless, I wish you well and hope you heal from the childhood traumas you experienced. Also, therapy is something we should embrace more in the African community. Perhaps give it a try. Love and Light always.
I think every Nigerian should have therapy.
But thank you for your recommendation.
Why do people like to listen to other people's issues in marriage. I really wonder
@frank edoho pls share spotify links...sad songs have the truest meanings
I completely identify with his love of sad songs. They carry so much emotion and almost everyone can relate.
Everything he said 100 percent true we both schooled and lived in calabar.
The goat 🐐 @ mr frank
Interesting interview i am so inspired ❤
When eloquent people speak, they choose their words and not necessarily the truth
What is your own truth...isi ewu
I feel you.
It is always interesting seeing people's level of IQ in just few words.
This is a good take... The way average Nigerians godify celebrities🙄
Tah...
@@opeyemioyewole3834😊❤❤👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
People need to heal first before looking to heal others. Also, learn not to get easily bamboozled because many things in life are only a facade.
Wow. What a matured man
There is truly a difference between "friendship & marriage"
12:57 This guy was so sad he went into a studio. Got me
Frank Edoho will always be my crush anytime any day 🎉❤😊such a beautiful soul 🫂
I wish he comes back to hosting
Frank husky voice is amazing 👏
The way he even gives gbas gbos on social media…know say he no gbadun.
Nice one 👍
Unhealed trauma. Most adults are damaged from past experiences. Its sad
I know narcissists when I see them. Unhealed trauma can also make you one. Only trained / “experienced” eyes and ears can detect.
Sometimes what those 'trained eyes and ears' see and hear unless subjected to the litmus test is only their biases covered under professional qualifications.
@@SimonAgbakofact
@@SimonAgbakofantastically said
@@SimonAgbako💯💯💯
I also perceived a dose of agentic narcissism .
Great Iinterview
I am sure Daddy Freeze is looking for the wife to interview now.
😁
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Divorce affects children more in the relationship. That’s the origin of his depression 😢
I like how he tells the account of his marital issues without saying anything in particular. You can't accuse him of saying anything 😅😅😅😅😅
Wisdom at work
Exactly
Yeah and could also be a Narcissistic trait. He did not heal from his parent’s divorce
In this life anything you want to do just go for it
Cruise Control was my jam. That show was lit.
True i dated my friend and it was hell. In fact i was happier being his friend than dating him. Now we are enemies.
**Hugs **😢
Thank God you got out alive 🙏 ❤
It doesn't work all the time, I think it's 50/50.
Nothing wrong with best friends getting married, people just change and you see something else which can also happen when you marry a stranger😂😂..choice and consequence. Frank isnt the same person he was in his first marriage, in that same situation today he ll handle things differently😂😂
This comment is it 🎉
It takes the right woman to bring that out. Avoid women who draw out the lucifer in you.
Could be anybody in the relationship tbh, just know the tipping point and call it quit immediately
Wow! Mr Frank Edoho, you a man. You should not die bcos someone who does not deserve you wants you to change to suit them
Great interview from Chude!
Frank Edoho's life resonantes with mine and many others.
Men get judged for leaving an emotionally abusive marriage. Most of men decide to just be silent about separation and divorce doesn't mean we are all the antagonist in all of it.
Out of respect for the children and ex wife we just chose to bury our heads in all the lies spreading. We shall be okay
I missed the program that was held by frank.
Who wants to be a millionaire
Everyone is innocent until the person is proven to be guilty!
So many people have been wrongly locked up in jail simply becos of a confession that had no proof!
His first marriage story is similar to mine
A melancholic through and through.
Not really. He’s a Melancholic Choleric.
@A.F.U-A Yes. Primarily melancholic though. 70 - 30, I'd say.
Saw that too.
19:35, have been a victim of seeking advice/wisdow/knowleged from people that are not in the same bandwidth with me... i regretted it till today
What he said about radio to Tv is so true why Wendy Williams was so good
It was as if Frank was interviewing Chude. Great broadcaster
It shows you not watching but delusion because you like Frank who that much
@yemiashimolowo understand simple sarcasm
His quite right, the best tv shows presenters in Italy they all passed through radio.
True happiness should depend on factors that are not variable hmmmmm
I had same experience but we are all cool now i presume😀
Love is not enough in Marriage.
Audacity 📌📌📌📌
Frank needs to find Joy and leave Happiness. Happiness is temporary. Try joy can be found in Christ. It doesn't mean we wont face challenges or hard times but we would still have joy that is from within and not human source. Truth is your children can leave and forget about you . May life never get us .
This interview reveals that Frank Edoho dealt with plenty of childhood trauma...It never goes away.
And sadly too many adults are on this table. They live in denial that they are ok or ‘turned out well’ but the opposite is the case cause they end up frustrating loved ones. Deal with your traumas and be better for yourself and those around you.
I agree. On a personal note I have recently been reviewing my childhood and that of my siblings, significant life events and incidents, my peculiar shy and withdrawn behaviour at primary school, and the lives of my late parents and relatives and concluded that there was so much trauma which is still manifesting in the lives of my extended family. and me. The first step is a humble self examination, reflection and acknowledgement, forgiving yourself, your parents, and siblings, not rationalising or sounding tough. The next step is resolving to heal and seek ways to break the trauma chain... the hardest part. Most of it was out of our collective control as everyone was responding to life in Nigeria as best as they saw fit within the context of the social and cultural milieu. May God help us all.
@@supranova6592 Forgiveness is the key to healing from these traumas because we have all been on autopilot. As we journey through our path to healing, we should hold space for those yet to embark on healing.
FRANK a god in his game
It is weird that he never answered the question about domestic violence directly. Saying so much but nothing at all. This man has issues and has mastered the act of lying. He will only fool gullible people.
And the act of storytelling 😂 he is deceiving people who have not met him before.
He answered it clearly except your ears are paining you
@@omalicha7388He lied. Don't be scammed
You that know the story more than him please can you tell us what happened?
💯
If I’m honest if a lady slaps me. I’m leaving her or divorcing her. I might even forgive cheating. But if your wife/girlfriend feels comfortable to slap you.. it’s a dangerous road to be.
There is nothing like the Anger of a Jilted Lover.
I guess the sad music is a coping mechanism not really healing." I learnt how to deal...i am alone in the world" To be tossed in the turbulence of depression and the ability to adopt a coping mechanism and still flourished in his work is a miracle. Depressed state of life can be dream killing.
'Depression abhors joy' does this mean a depressed person is condemned to die and not live or spread the depression or cope with it?
Before depression there is something, isn't it possible to go back to that something before depression came? Discussing the reason for depression, adopting prayers can help. Alot of people can't afford consultation with psychologists otherwise professional advice is the best, one has to be careful to pick out the real professional from pretenders in the job.b
Frank is a nice.
Franks said it all don’t take advice from people it will lead you astray.
The way he danced around the issue of whether or not he was violent is interesting. Sounds like they were in a mutually violent relationship.
Remember this is a cut and join interview not saying he is a saint either
He still respects his kids so coming out to say his/her is bad wouldn’t show respect! The news your looking for, if you don’t understand then go on tv and say your boyfriend is a fraud and see how people will turn it against you
@@wisdomokon1766funny but wise comment....
Did we watch the same interview?
Thank you
Mr Frank married his 1st wife out of guilt of she being pregnant for him. A lesson that must be learnt by both ladies and men. You happiness is key . Don't be pressured into taking immeduate decisions for a lifelong devisions. Think through bcos people's decidions don't always matter. Many spouses feel entitled bcos of either marriage or circumstances that happened before marriage.
What about the child's happiness. Why impregnate someone you won't marry
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993all this 'my happiness is key' is pure self centeredness and the world is never built by such. What of the children, the immediate and extended family? Or you feel there happiness dont count. Its little children that fancy there happiness only, mature people becomes source of happiness to others.
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993 leave the MUGU
If people abstain from premarital sex most of this problem will be avoided.
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993Apt. That's the question he should have asked himself. Why impregnate your first wife when you knew you were not going to marry her. This is very bad na.
Depression abhors Joy
Wardrobe malfunction, Frank... Lovely interview btw.
Some Women Self! Why will she want to bring him down?
Pause at 3:10. The editors should have seen this and done something about it.
Once you have cold feet follow your instincts don’t commit.
Am looking for our winner kellyray interview
Sir Chude you're so stressed. Please take care of your self and rest. Your right eyes n shoulders were twitching it was so obvious. Biko oo
Who told you that he is suffering from stress?
The lamba he is hearing is giving him away 😂😂😂😂😂😂.
I had to go watch again. You're so right. That's a sign of stress.
@@Sudio51Babe ....correct LAMBA aswear!!!!!
@@Lambo567 I am diagnosed with stress and anxiety disorder. Those were the signs I encountered before it got worse. Them no dey tell person something twice. Since then I've been meticulous with how I handle work and I listen to my body. So he's stressed, he needs rest. Just looking out for him that's all.
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This the same mistake i made, getting married to my best friend, I'm facing hell on earth in Just 3yrs plus marriage
U can walk out. It is not a do or die affair
Hell is not a place to be 😢😢👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯👨🏽🦯
We learn from videos like this. Frank a wife beater, not a wife beater etc etc. Some escalate to fatality, one of d partners loosing their lives
Chaiii sorry ...
Me after my last heartbreak with a beer friend I wanna marry, I have been scared to enter another relationship, Infact I want to be a priest .
I observed that many woman ruin men and if you must marry have more than one wife.
Hmmmmmm a lot of men are going through hell
How many have you met?
You need to be in it to feel it...
Men are not allowed to speak out in their time of distress as victims. They are supposed to be strong.
@ChidinmajenniferAkunyili You are delusional.. Men are worst victims but they never cry out.. Be reasonable
What about women
And the women in their lives are painted as the victims. Painful.
Depression abhors joy. I agree
I remember lady V
Please as a lady if you are marrying your friend please be careful. It’s better your marry someone who will lord over you. If I’m lying ask Igbo men
A man who experienced so much domestic violence from the dating stage to when he decided to marry her was so quick to move on after divorce. He married his present wife after three years of divorce from his ex. So at what point did he sit down to clear his head from all the trauma he experienced from the marriage, looked for his present wife, get to know her more(because of the bad experience of the past), and finally decide to settle down with her. This story of his doesn't sound complete to me.
People like to analyze others while hiding theirs. Yes you don't have to comment all in your mind cos it's not everything he or she will say
So 3 years is too short a time to move on? You always not a serious person 🙄
@eseojiekhudu6770...take note there are no formulas or rules regarding moving on after a divorce.
Well spoken but not necessarily the truth though.
Frank has a good command of English